Man monologue: I betrayed but not divorced
Men can often tolerate women’s betrayal, but they cannot tolerate women’s physical betrayal; women can often tolerate men’s physical betrayal, but they cannot tolerate men’s betrayal.Monologue: I betrayed, but I don’t want my divorced wife to talk to me about divorce, because I brought my girlfriend I met online back home.
My betrayal was premeditated. Time allowed marriage to be dull. I strongly hope that the love that is released is always rejected by my wife. I expect to find a breakthrough. I betrayed, but I really do not want to divorce.
Who doesn’t want a warm and comfortable family, and who cares for a gentle and virtuous wife who still wants to have extravagance?
I want to be a normal psychological and physiological man think that the idea of divorce will never germinate easily!
Now that I am on the verge of divorce, the fuse is on my side, but who is playing a role in fueling the ordinary life behind me?
There is no doubt my wife.
In my wife’s eyes, everything I maintained lacked correctness, which made her unsatisfactory.
My derailment was not a temporary impulse, let alone a physical temptation, but a derailment that was prepared and planned.
I want to use derailment to shock a dead marriage, so that my wife has a new understanding and a new attitude towards me.
Maybe this way looks cruel, but I do n’t think it ‘s despicable. I did n’t feel so guilty about myself because of my extramarital affairs. Instead, I felt that there was still such a beautiful and beautiful one in my own real life.Bright glow.
It’s not her appearance that keeps attracting me.
To be honest, the proportion of her looks to my wife’s looks is exactly like the inequality in mathematics.
Her temptation to me comes from her multifaceted and profound knowledge, and her unique way of looking at things.
Happiness sometimes makes me forget about the existence of marriage, but subconsciously tells me that marriage does exist. I am contradictory in happiness and worry about it while forgetting why.
Later, due to work reasons, she wanted to work outside the country for a long time. After hearing the news, she felt an indescribable feeling. Was it pain or surprise?
I can’t say for myself, the pain and joy also stem from her temporary departure.
Just after watching the plane go, I went to my wife’s house abruptly.
Facing the wife who was in tears, and the trust and forgiveness of my father-in-law and my mother-in-law, I felt that the so-called true love thought that I had been pursuing in my inner world collapsed in an instant.
During that sensitive period, while consoling my wife home, I was busy answering my girlfriend’s phone call, and the relationship between love and affection coexisted in this way.
I hate lies, but sometimes they can really find countless reasons to save myself.
The first round trip was out of chasing love, but the current round trip was out of need of his wife.
Habitual love makes me persist in this marriage. The reason why I have persisted in this marriage is just like smokers cannot leave tobacco, and drug addicts cannot do without drugs. I cannot do without my wife. This includesMy habitual love for her.
In fact, whether you are married or divorced is a self-choice, no one will force you behind the scenes.
“Happy is together, sad is scattered”, but when this choice is really made, I don’t know how many people will stop!
I don’t think that when there is a dispute between husband and wife, we will always use the weapon of divorce to threaten the other party, because all our efforts are in the name of love.
I can betray because I can give something new, and it is enjoyment for a man. This is also my wish to express my wife while not wanting to divorce.
Expert analysis: what are men looking for in extramarital affairs?
Why are men so happy and at risk, playing this balancing game?
There are five common psychological factors.
First, look for youth.
People usually think that only women care about their age, because they are keen to cover up the traces of time through makeup, clothing and exercise.
In fact, men still care whether they are still young, energetic and attractive. These things are also a competitive capital for men.
It’s just that their desire for eternal youth is more secretive and long-term than that of women.
Why do the right men find young and beautiful lover?
They want to prove through this incident that they are still attractive and should not be underestimated.
Second, find identity.
Usually only those rich men can find lovers. In the eyes of some people, lovers become status, part of the symbol, just like villas, famous cars, brand-name clothing, beautiful lovers seem to have live advertisements for identity men.
An ordinary employee of a junior company does not have a high income, but since he has a lover, he finds that even the manager seems to choose another one for himself.Men are far more socialized than women, and are more affected by the environment and popular concepts than women.
Third, find the mood.
Many men are outstanding. The reason why they fall in love with their lover is because she is gentler, more beautiful and caring than her wife, so they are looking for a better woman.
In fact, what men look for in their lover is different from his wife’s femininity, style, and style. They like their partner to have a sense of mystery and seductiveness, and because the wife has lived together for a long time, they are quite familiar with each other.To their psychological needs.
Fourth, find sexual satisfaction.
It is undeniable that sexual gratification is the biggest “harvest” of men in extramarital affairs. Most extramarital affairs, in essence, have the nature of sexual transactions.
Men with normal sexual lives treat extramarital affairs as strange, and men who are dissatisfied with sexual life transfer and vent their sexuality through extramarital affairs.
Fifth, find feelings.
There must be some men who make their lover a better marriage partner, but some people have a relatively small proportion.
Behind the life-and-death relationship of extramarital affairs, there are quite complicated emotional backgrounds. Such an affair leads to a very high proportion of divorces.
For the derailed man, although he said that betrayal was because of the new giving and the enjoyment for the man, in fact it was still a habit and dependence that led him not to divorce.
Who doesn’t want to have both bear’s paw and shark fin?
Maybe he has become accustomed to his wife to take care of his diet and life, has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle, he just hopes to get some stimulation outside of comfort, some “vigor”.
This habit is more of a pleasure than a giving.
So this man has forgotten the obligation to marry, but just hopes to continue the rights and benefits of copyright marriage.